Three Questions That Will Transform Your Decision-Making Power

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February 12, 2010 by Niurka 

How do you know when you’ve made a great decision? Do you know immediately, in the moment of decision, or do you know in time, when you see the results? One decision has the power to transform everything. So what would it be worth to consistently make conscious decisions with clarity, certainty and confidence, knowing that no matter the outcome, you’ve made the most powerful choice?

The quality of your life is a reflection of the quality of your decisions. Are you fully aware of the decisions you are making from moment to moment? It’s easy to make decisions on “autopilot,” choosing today the same as yesterday, out of habit or repetition, or based on what other people are saying or doing. If you drink coffee every morning, 364 days in a row, it’s extremely likely that you’ll choose a cup of coffee on the 365th day—even when you have infinite choice! (You could choose water, or tea, or juice, or nothing at all.) Small decisions like this add up over time and create your destiny. That’s why it’s so important to stay alert each time you make a decision—so you can choose wisely and purposefully.

Whenever I find myself faced with a decision, I ask myself three questions that guide me in making the highest choice for my life. You can apply these questions for all decisions, even the little ones.

The most powerful decisions are those you make when you are fully aware and choosing in alignment with your purpose and values. Not just for the biggest and most important decisions, but for all the choices you make in life. Here are the three questions I ask myself to guide me in choosing wisely:

1) Is it essential? By “essential,” I don’t mean “necessary” or “required.” I mean, is it of my essence? Is it in alignment with who I really am and what’s most important to me?
2) Will it elevate and uplift my life? By that I mean, does it empower and inspire me? Do I feel energized by it? Each decision you make will either advance you toward your ultimate vision or hold you back. When faced with a choice, consciously follow the path that will make you stronger, wiser, healthier and happier.
3) Having made the decision, how do I feel? Imagine yourself in the future looking back on now, having realized the successful outcome of your decision. Notice what you see, hear and feel. Try on all the possible scenarios by visualizing the result of your decision in your mind before you make the choice. If hindsight is 20/20, give yourself this gift in advance.

Asking these three questions will inspire meaningful decisions. Usually, people make decisions emotionally and then justify them logically. This process brings awareness to both the emotional and logical reasons so that you discover and pursue the greatest options in support of your ultimate vision.

Wholeheartedly commit to your decision. The Latin root of the word decision means “to cut off.” So a decision is the choice to cut off other possibilities and clearly focus your energy in one direction while remaining open to the infinite possibilities around you. Asking those three questions provides the clarity, certainty and confidence to make wise decisions based on who you are and what’s most important to you.

About the Author
Niurka is a dynamic speaker with a sharp wit and inspiring stories. She is a communication and influence expert and founder of Niurka Inc., a corporate-training company. With over a decade of experience, she has entertained and informed audiences across the country with her message of peace and prosperity. Visit for free inspirational downloads.


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8 Responses to “Three Questions That Will Transform Your Decision-Making Power”

  1. garyk on February 13th, 2010 10:25 am

    OHh The goose bumps, the chills that run through me just by reading motivating inspiring articles. The Great things You do Today will be Precious Memories of the past tomorrow.

  2. jennine on February 13th, 2010 10:45 am

    one of the worst things about myself is that I have a very hard time making decisions and please don’t give me options, that just makes the decision making even worse. Now with the three questions that Niurka ask herself, I think that my worst thing about myself my be helped. Thank you so much for an answer that I’ve been searching for , for years.

  3. carolina esquire on February 14th, 2010 6:41 pm

    Thank you Niurka! truly powerful insights. i just went on your website to learn more. thank you.

  4. Emily on February 15th, 2010 1:31 pm

    Wow! Those are great questions. I’m excited to try them out. Thank you.

  5. kevin on February 15th, 2010 2:08 pm

    Thank Niurka, great article. I am looking forward to reading more.

  6. Niamh on February 27th, 2010 12:40 am

    Thank you for help us cut through the noise & focus on what matters. I will gladly make more focused decisions based on your article.

  7. Reeny on May 29th, 2011 12:03 am

    Thanks for the simple yet powerful way of looking at decision making… I often have found myself complicating what could be easiest - love the future pace and the emotional connection.

  8. Jennifer Bailey on September 28th, 2011 7:17 pm

    I love the first two questions, but wonder about the third one. My clients often tell me that how they THINK they’ll feel about a pending decision does not necessarily match up with how they ACTUALLY feel once the decision is made.

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